Busy day

[silver_chipmunk]

Started out by going to my Al-anon meeting. Had breakfast and coffee, showered, dressed and took the bus over. The meeting was good, growing now that the holidays are over.

Then went to the diner, and had apple cinnamon French toast. It was delicious.

Got an Uber back, then after leaving off my books, and going to the bathroom, I walked over to the nursing home and saw Oldest Brother. He was mentally quite good, but physically, had a nasty cough and congestion. I spoke to the nurse about it when I left.

Then I waited until RK picked up Dori and then me, and we went to Great Neck to mashfanficchick's father's place to sit shiva again. We were the only ones who were there tonight, so we had a nice time catching up on things.

Then at 9 RK drove us home, and I fed the pets, then Skyped the FWiB.

Then I caught up on my internet reading, and started here. I am very tired for some reason. looking forward to bed.

Gratitude List:

1. The FWiB.

2. RK.

3. Seeing Dori.

4. My meetings and the people there.

5. Sunny weather, even though it was cold.

6. Bed soon.

Comments

[glowingfish]

Is asking/discussing Al-Anon in general terms okay here?

[silver_chipmunk]

Sure! What do you want to know?

[glowingfish]

Oh, I was actually in Al-Anon for a while, and found it very helpful.
I stopped going to meetings because of the pandemic, and also because the meeting I was in was too "positive" and not specific enough.
The problems that family addictions have caused in my life are often pretty...logistical, like I spent a lot of my life dodging fall out from various addiction-related behaviors, and didn't know how to do certain things. So I was looking for practical ways to solve problems, and at least the meeting I was in at the time was a bit too fuzzy.
...I don't know if that is a question, exactly.

[silver_chipmunk]

Well remember the idea in Al-anon is NOT to give people advice on their specific problems, but to share their own experience, strength, and hope so everyone can come to their own conclusions about what to do. I'm not sure what you mean by too "positive", could you explain?

[glowingfish]

Well, it was a while ago, but things like treating fear like it was a bad thing to me were too "positive". There seemed to be a reluctance to talk about negative emotions, and I understand where that is coming from, but it also started to seem more like a form of denial.
That was at one meeting I was going to, not the meeting I started at the. The meeting I started at was very good, especially because it gave me a chance to talk about things.

[silver_chipmunk]

I sort of see your point, if you mean that by treating fear as bad it ignores it. We need to acknowledge all our feelings, but remember that feelings aren't facts.