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Spent the day packing
Aug. 30th, 2015 11:09 pmWith Oldest Brother. Got a good bit done. Went out to pick up my laundry and had dinner.
On reflection I think I should give some information about the FWiB that I haven't before, in order to explain how I know what's going on and what might be going to happen now.
So (deep breath), he's married. That's why we could never be anything more than what we were, friends with benefits, because he made it plain he would never leave his wife. But she had told him some years before we became lovers, that she was no longer interested in sex. At all. And he said he couldn't live like a monk, and she agreed, as long as he didn't shove an affair in her face. But he couldn't find anyone for a long time. So when my husband left me, we'd always been a little attracted to each other, he made his proposition and I accepted.
So that's the story. His wife knows about me and she's OK with me, we're not exactly friends or anything but we get along. And when he isn't up to communicating with me now because of the drinking, I ask her what's going on and she has been good about keeping me in the loop. So the situation now is that it's been suggested to her by others that she could have him declared incompetent and force him into rehab. I think she's thinking about it because she doesn't know what else to do. She's left their home and gone to her brother.
So that's the story as it stands. Please don't hate me for having an affair with a married man, I was never a threat to the marriage, I was a safety valve.
I don't know what I think about the idea of forcing him, I don't think it would do any good in the long run, but I don't see any other way to proceed except sit back and let him drink himself to death. Which no one wants.
I hope I haven't shocked anyone unduly, and that no one thinks any less of me.
In other news, back to work tomorrow, blerg.
Gratitude List:
1. The FWiB's wife, for putting up with me.
2. Oldest Brother.
3. Packing coming along.
4. The FWiB.
5. My fan.
6. Clean laundry.
On reflection I think I should give some information about the FWiB that I haven't before, in order to explain how I know what's going on and what might be going to happen now.
So (deep breath), he's married. That's why we could never be anything more than what we were, friends with benefits, because he made it plain he would never leave his wife. But she had told him some years before we became lovers, that she was no longer interested in sex. At all. And he said he couldn't live like a monk, and she agreed, as long as he didn't shove an affair in her face. But he couldn't find anyone for a long time. So when my husband left me, we'd always been a little attracted to each other, he made his proposition and I accepted.
So that's the story. His wife knows about me and she's OK with me, we're not exactly friends or anything but we get along. And when he isn't up to communicating with me now because of the drinking, I ask her what's going on and she has been good about keeping me in the loop. So the situation now is that it's been suggested to her by others that she could have him declared incompetent and force him into rehab. I think she's thinking about it because she doesn't know what else to do. She's left their home and gone to her brother.
So that's the story as it stands. Please don't hate me for having an affair with a married man, I was never a threat to the marriage, I was a safety valve.
I don't know what I think about the idea of forcing him, I don't think it would do any good in the long run, but I don't see any other way to proceed except sit back and let him drink himself to death. Which no one wants.
I hope I haven't shocked anyone unduly, and that no one thinks any less of me.
In other news, back to work tomorrow, blerg.
Gratitude List:
1. The FWiB's wife, for putting up with me.
2. Oldest Brother.
3. Packing coming along.
4. The FWiB.
5. My fan.
6. Clean laundry.
